There’s a trend among anonymous women on the Internet: if your significant other does the bare minimum, deal with it. This attitude is increasingly prominent around holidays. Moms who complained about not being acknowledged by their spouses on Mother’s Day were met with a quick verbal spanking.
The reason? Well, it was Mother’s Day – not “Spouse’s Day“, so your husband/significant other does not have to acknowledge you.
In case those moms who were upset needed more ammunition, know-it-alls everywhere also insisted that, since it was Mother’s Day (see: Not Spouse’s Day), it was also perfectly acceptable for your partner to ditch you and spend the day with your mother in law.
Although these opinions were very interesting to read, what’s even more fascinating is the fact that this attitude does not extend to Father’s Day, which, apparently, is Spouse’s Day! But, not if you’re a mom (sorry, ladies).
Yes, you interpreted that correctly: if it’s Mother’s Day, your husband owes you nothing and is free to spend the day with his mommy. If it’s Father’s Day, you better be handing out steak & blow jobs, because Father’s Day = Spouse’s Day.
I can’t decide which is worse: women who accept neglect, or women who make excuses. Yes, the very same women who were bashing other moms for venting about their bad Mother’s Day experiences are the same ones who are insisting on making Father’s Day special and memorable for their spouses.
So what’s the verdict on the Mother’s/Father’s/Spouse’s Day debacle? It’s pretty simple:you didn’t get pregnant by yourself, sooooo Mother’s Day is Spouse’s Day. Father’s Day is Spouse’s Day. Every day is Spouse’s Day – yes, even the holiday days! You know why? Because having a shitty relationship that is only good on days Hallmark requires you buy a card is disgusting. You shouldn’t need a corporate holiday to find a reason to be good to your spouse. You should just do it. Every day. And you deserve the same in return.
If your spouse forgot about a holiday but is great to you every day, move on. If your spouse forgot about a holiday and is a pain in the ass 348 days a year (with the remaining 8 days somewhat tolerable), don’t accept it. Don’t make excuses for shitty behavior. And don’t reward it with beer cakes and lingerie, either. Mmkay?
The facts are simple: if your spouse isn’t acknowledging you on his/her respective parenting holiday, who will? Unless your children are violating U.S. child labor laws, they won’t be able to buy you anything until they’re practically adults. So, you choose: 18 years of shitty Mother’s/Father’s Day, or you help your kids out and acknowledge your fucking spouse. The end.